Wedding Singer Flashbacks...

How many things can a brain think about at once?

You know how scientists say we only use like 0.0003% of our brains or something? (I know that's not accurate, just how it seems in traffic) Well I think I've been using 110% of the 0.0003% since the new month rolled over. Tara and I will be getting married (yes, the whole engagement period was lovely, thank you) in a little over a week and there are so many loose ends to tie up. I'm not surprised by the state of things in the least, as I am hopelessly afflicted by procrastination, but at least it's not anything Big-Ticket, such as reception hall or photographer or similar. It's the little pet-projects of mine, such as the photo-montage DVD for the cocktail hour, and my inability to trust the DJ to just PLAY stuff. My list of "Do-not-play" is longer than the list I'm comfortable hearing at my own wedding. I've never given a thought to the music I've heard at anyone else's wedding, and I can't remember outright hating what was played, either...

"Good chicken, eh?"
"Mnff, yuh an dish wine is fantashtick."
"Yeah but this DJ, I dunno. Kinda blows. Kinda sixth grade graduation dance blows, you know?"
"Totally."

Then I wake in a cold sweat. The hard part is trying to just let go and let the DJ do what we're paying her to do, but two things matter more to me than almost anything else: the music and the photography. I'm completely confident in the photographer we chose (www.norman-photography.com) but nothing is going to make me feel better about the music short of submitting the complete playlist. My marriage may be short-lived if Kool & The Gang's Celebration gets requested as I will probably die in mid-mamba. (Dan if it gets played now I'll totally know it was you!)

Yes yes yes this is all quite normal to be feeling at this time, I know, and it's funny when people at work keep asking me "what's the temperature?" as in hot or cold feet? but this music thing is a case in point. So important has this aspect been to me all along that I've refused to even think about it, happily delving head-first into any other wedding-planning emergency that has arisen. Because it's hard. And I know once it's done it's going to be great, I'll be totally happy with it like everything else we've planned. But getting STARTED is harder than getting a security council resolution and I've been down this road five trillion times. I've made calls, made appointments, made decisions left and right, had TWO bachelor parties, but the music thing has been there, just behind whatever distracting screen I've thrown up to put it off just a little longer.

Well, now the DJ needs the list, and for the most part, its done, at least in my mind. First dance has been set since 2000, Bride-Dad and Groom-Mom song is set, and so is the cake cutting TRANSITION and actual CUTTING song. I never thought about a walking to the cake to cut it song, never saw that coming... Also included are songs I wouldn't choose personally but as I won't be the only one there considerations must be made. But WHAT will the old folks like? What will get our college friends on the floor, and should our parents be subjected to the music we dance to and vice versa? And how bad, exactly, am I going to look on the dreaded video when MY SONG come on? And why do so many of the songs I like have absolutely no business being played at a wedding reception? Chances are I'll devise blocks of music for every population, a little something for everyone... Maybe tomorrow I'll put it all together...

Then we'll finish scanning baby pictures, removing dust and scratches and red-eye and put that DVD together...

Then I'll get 0.0001% capacity back to maybe possibly perhaps get some actual WORK done.